4 Things to Know About Working with a Divorce Coach

It could seem that today’s modern world has turned into a whole epicentre invasion of coaches and gurus of many kinds. You bump into them at every step, social networks are full of advertisements that invite you with motivational messages to book a fantastic first session and see for yourself the quality of the service. Yet it also happens quite frequently that people today give heaps of money to self-proclaimed spiritual leaders but remain bearing the feeling of not progressing that much despite the pile of cash spent. Therefore, it’s no wonder that this type of occupation is sometimes seen as ‘blowing smoke’ and that there’s a lack of trust and the belief that hiring this kind of service has no effect. It’s also not surprising that people roll their eyes at the very mention of the term ‘divorce coach’ or throw in a comment followed by a sneer.

But… How much do we actually know about this profession and is it similar to today’s life coaches and to what extent? And what is actually a divorce coach? Basically, it’s quite simple – that’s what we call a person whose role is to provide emotional and mental support to individuals who are struggling after this challenging chapter of life. Now, you might think – but why would someone foot the bill for such things? Here we’ll try to explain a couple of things you should be aware of in case you’re considering giving it a try.

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They’re not there to judge you

You may have had too much judging from those around you for what happened, mostly depending on what kind of environment you live in and how much support you have from your friends, family, and loved ones. Even if you haven’t, what’s certainly a fact is that you shouldn’t expect it from the divorce coach either. They are only interested in one thing – that you personally feel better and cope with this situation in an easier way,  as it might cause numerous psychological wounds and leave a deep mark on you.

They also aren’t there to moralize you and draw conclusions about you, and that’s the ace up your sleeve, as they’ll always look at you as a human being who needs assistance in overcoming difficult moments. You’ll always have somebody to rely on, even if your close people don’t have time or are willing to listen.

You should expect absolute honesty

Well, there it goes – you’ll need to take off your pink glasses and look at the real side of life. That’s why they serve as well – to help you by being honest and supportive at the same time. People who love you and know what you’ve been through might often remain quite biased when it comes to their attitudes and opinions on your situation and your ex-husband or wife, but that doesn’t always help.

Yes, it’s true – sometimes we aren’t prepared well enough to hear some real and somehow harsh things and facts. Especially after we’ve gone through a whole rollercoaster of emotions and temptations on our way. But think again – who wants to be lied to? You can expect them to honestly tell you their personal, but also professional opinion on your case and go through some facts with you. Painful? Might be, sometimes. Sad? You might be. But just remember – one day you’ll thank them for that as this could wake you up from apathy and make you realize valuable things about your life and marriage.

They can help you take the necessary legal steps

You definitely need a lawyer to complete the procedure and fight for the best possible outcome – it’s inevitable. However, their job isn’t to approach you emotionally and take care of your feelings the way a coach cares. However, a divorce coach can have both roles depending on their knowledge of legal procedures and previous experience in the field.

Whether you have no idea about the legal aspect of this process and law or know something about it, but still need a second opinion or help on this topic, the situation is similar – you won’t have to worry about it. Professionals trained in this way are able to give the convenient piece of advice regarding the things that await you, the documents that need to be collected and possible scenarios. Also, through their connections it’s possible to achieve contact with other people that might help you.

They might teach you how to communicate through divorse process

Let’s be realistic, there are two main outcomes. Either you have remained in a correct and good relationship with your ex, or you can’t stand each other and you just want to break every bond you’ve built together as soon as possible. Not everyone’s lucky enough to be able to reach a compromise with their ex-partner and therefore this should be seen as a real blessing. But what if not everything is so great and peaceful?

This is where your divorce coach comes into play, as well. They’ll never encourage you to provoke and fuel quarrels and debates, but will try to teach you calmness and show you all the benefits of normal communication and what it can achieve. You can always expect wise pieces of advice if there’s a special situation that requires a little more thinking or an important decision.

Some of the companies like O’Sullivan Mediation possess a whole bunch of related services, depending on the situation you’re in, or whether the children are present and included into the thing. Or financial matters. Support with all these channels means a lot for the development of the further course of events.

Now, when knowing what could possibly go on if you decide to give a chance to this type of coach, could you imagine yourself having the support like that next to you? Everyone would, probably. In fragile times and periods in life, it’s a must to return to the right path with full strength and stand on your own feet – and this must be the right thing to do. There’s no room for shame or anything like that – it’s you and it’s your life. And it’s worth it, even after a series of life crashes – and that should never be forgotten.

Peter is a freelance writer with more than eight years of experience covering topics in politics. He was one of the guys that were here when the started.